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Emotions are an invaluable tool for coaches and their clients.
Every second of each day we experience feelings but we have not been taught what to do with them. Society teaches us that emotions are unpleasant so we deny, hide or repress them. Boys learn not to show feelings such as fear and sadness (“Real men don’t cry”) but that other types of feelings, such as anger, are acceptable. Emotional Mastery introduces a new paradigm - All of your emotions have a positive intention and knowing how to process them will help you find clarity and make informed choices.
All emotions are positive.
Learning to quickly identify the emotion you are experiencing while
look at two major emotions: anger and fear. The dictionary’s definition of anger is: “Feeling extreme or passionate displeasure”. In Emotional Mastery, “anger lets me know that it is time to take full responsibility and set limits and goals with myself and others”. When I get angry with someone it could be because I haven’t set boundaries.
In the dictionary fear is defined as ”Feeling an unpleasant emotion caused by exposure to danger or expectation of pain.” The New Paradigm states that fear “lets me know about risks and opportunities”. Believe it or not, anything that you are afraid of happening to you is already happening. The goal is to do it now, later or never from an informed place and to trust your gut to take risks that are worth taking.
Individual responsibility -T.F.A. (thought-feeling-action).
First I choose a thought, then a feeling and finally an action. By examining my patterns of thoughts and emotions I can discover the true motivations behind my actions.
Self-defeating behaviors.
Understanding and managing your emotions can help you to identify the roots of unconscious patterns of self-defeating behaviors such as: overeating, smoking, drinking or going from one bad relationship to another. Shadows (a term first used by Carl G. Jung to describe the repressed or denied part of the self) may be running your life when you repeat these patterns.
Our emotions, when we are fully aware of them, are invaluable for coaches and their clients in order to fully explore experiences and express their true selves.
Berel Weiner |
